Distributing anything in a refugee camp so that it is fair and dignified is difficult. With 400 kids and teenagers who had hardly any toys at all to play with, we knew it would be a challenge.
Over the last four weeks we have been concentrating on what we saw as essentials: food, toiletries, washing facilities, solar chargers, little lamps, shoes, blankets etc but was this too adult-centric? With nothing to play with, many of boys were turning to the many sticks and stones lying around the camp with inevitable consequences. There were battles over footballs. The kids were bored and craving stimulation.
The toys, most of which donated by the enormously generous Bridge2, all new or nearly new, were out of sight in the shop but we were desperate to get them out.
We decided to use the same system as we use in our shop and distribute in that way. We have 6 blocks with about 25 tents per blcok and each block has a dedicated 90 minute shift twice a week to collect their goods. That way, each family unit gets 2 dignified shops a week and we calculated that we could get at least one decent toy to every child over 3 days. The rules for toys were:
- When arriving at the shop each child could select ONE toy from a small selection that we constantly refreshed on some shelves just inside the shop
- If the child hadn’t come to the shop then the parent could choose one toy for each child
- No more than one football per family. We had a limited number of footballs and they are highly coveted
- Aim to hold back some of the better (heavier and bigger) toys so that the later shifts didn’t end up with the least wanted things
It went well and when you think what it can be like in any toy shop anywhere, the kids were incredibly well-behaved. We had next to no shop-lifting attempts (that we know of!) and very few meltdowns.
But like all work in this arena, it was bitter-sweet:
- Word got out very quickly that the shop was giving out toys so the last shifts, and particularly the final shift, had a lot of impatient kids and pestered parents waiting for the shop to open well before time. We should have introduced a ticketing system outside the shop so people didn’t have to wait so long
- Some younger kids couldn’t understand why they had to wait and telling one tearful little girl she had to wait until tomorrow afternoon was tough
- Watching a second toy being gently but firmly prised out the hand of an even younger boy who obviously didn’t see the justice in it was particularly hard
- Three kids came back to exchange their toys because they weren’t happy with their choice
- Two boys cried because there was only one football allowed per family
- An older brother was so desperate to select the right toy for his baby sister that he was unable to choose and needed some gentle persuasion so we could serve the next family
Sticking to the rules we had set may seem harsh and it was very, very difficult.
But almost every child got something decent to play with that they or their parents had personally chosen, we had no fighting over who should get what and finally at the end of the third day the camp was full of kids doing what so many of us take for granted – enjoying themselves in play.